{"id":13868,"date":"2024-09-11T15:51:08","date_gmt":"2024-09-11T19:51:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/jennytrout.com\/?p=13868"},"modified":"2024-09-11T15:51:09","modified_gmt":"2024-09-11T19:51:09","slug":"state-of-the-trout-mailing-list-moving-kid-job-search-and-other-things-on-the-horizon","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jennytrout.com\/?p=13868","title":{"rendered":"State of the Trout: Mailing list, moving kid, job search, and other things on the horizon."},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>I want to thank literally everybody who has donated to the Ko-fi or joined the Patreon or gave me advice and suggestions as I transition back into &#8220;Author With A Day Job&#8221; after twenty-two years out of the workforce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I still haven&#8217;t got an interview anywhere that I&#8217;ve applied. Either I get form rejected a day after submitting my application, or no one returns my follow-up calls and emails. I feel like the people saying &#8220;no one wants to work anymore&#8221; should start saying, &#8220;no one wants to hire anymore.&#8221; You&#8217;d think that I would be at least as qualified as a kid who hasn&#8217;t graduated high school yet when it comes to running a smoothie machine, but that is not the outlook prospective employers seem to have. I couldn&#8217;t even get an interview at a <em>dispensary<\/em>. A <em>dispensary<\/em>. That might be the only job I&#8217;m <em>over<\/em>-qualified for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But I do have some inside intel on a local grocery store. One of their employees will be leaving soon. Much sooner than he told his mother, initially. My son is moving to Los Angeles on September 21st and I am absolutely going to try to snipe his job. But I&#8217;m still trying to come to grips with the idea of one of my children leaving. I&#8217;ve been a parent for almost twenty-two years. Two whole decades of worrying about these kids, shaping my entire life around making sure they&#8217;re provided and cared for, and suddenly it just&#8230; isn&#8217;t my responsibility anymore? Suddenly, one of them is 2,000 miles away? And totally capable of living on his own?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I&#8217;m processing a lot of emotions here. Mainly, that I&#8217;m somehow being a bad parent by not taking care of my adult child. Which is bonkers, I know. I was supposed to my raise my kids for them to be independent and capable adults. Mission accomplished. But I guess I never realized that the job actually does end.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There is other, Shonda Rhimes-level drama happening in my life at this time, as well, that has me thinking about parents and children and what families owe to each other. No, seriously: I&#8217;m living through something that was actually a plot line on <em>Grey&#8217;s Anatomy.<\/em> But of course, not one where I get banged sideways by a hot surgeon or someone builds a romantic blueprint out of candles on a misty, green-screened Seattle night. Because that&#8217;s my luck. But I am on day three of the instant stress headache I got from finding out, so don&#8217;t say the universe never gave me nothing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>While I usually say stuff like, &#8220;Don&#8217;t use writing as your therapy,&#8221; and &#8220;nobody wants to read your therapy,&#8221; I&#8217;m breaking my own rule. Because I don&#8217;t want to go to therapy. They make you confront your emotions there, and I feel like it works much better to just push it down, push it down, put it in a box and throw it in the sea. Those are the lyrics, by the way, to my pushy-down song. And it&#8217;s getting a lot of airplay. So, I started writing a new Sophie book, after swearing the series was over. I have a lot of unresolved trauma that happened between the last book of that series and now, and I need a comfort write. In between my work on Fablemere and my update of <em>Blood Ties Book One: The Turning<\/em>, I&#8217;ve been noodling around in Sophie and El-Mudad and Neil&#8217;s world. I don&#8217;t have a release date planned yet, or a title. I have more books coming out this year; a paperback of <em>A Kingdom of Pleasure and Torment<\/em>, the e-book and paperback of <em>The Vampire&#8217;s Willing Captive (Fablemere #2)<\/em>, and <em>Her Brother&#8217;s Billionaire Best Friend<\/em>. I&#8217;ve also been logging words on <em>The Business Centaur&#8217;s Virgin Temp<\/em> and some various dark romance and fantasy projects.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>How have I become so suddenly productive? I stopped taking a medication that I&#8217;ve been on for a decade. Turns out, long-term use can cause cognitive impairment and brain fog. And boy, did it ever! Now, instead of struggling to work for an hour a day before getting tired and frustrated, I can actually work and keep track of what I&#8217;m doing. It&#8217;s incredible. I wish I would have discontinued it long ago.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When I do have news about books and such, I have set up a new Abigail Barnette mailing list. I lost access to my old mailing list a while ago, so if you were on it and want to be on the new one, <a href=\"http:\/\/eepurl.com\/iYMRLY\">here&#8217;s the link to visit. <\/a>I&#8217;ve learned that promotions and events sometimes require you to advertise them on your email list. I promise, it won&#8217;t be a non-stop email fest. I&#8217;m not going to be like Impala and try to get you to buy a new pair of rollerskates every day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That&#8217;s about all that&#8217;s happening in Trout Nation at the moment. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I want to thank literally everybody who has donated to the Ko-fi or joined the Patreon or gave me advice and suggestions as I transition&#8230;<\/p>\n<div class=\"more-link-wrapper\"><a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/jennytrout.com\/?p=13868\">Read more<span class=\"screen-reader-text\">State of the Trout: Mailing list, moving kid, job search, and other things on the horizon.<\/span><\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/jennytrout.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13868"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/jennytrout.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/jennytrout.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jennytrout.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jennytrout.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=13868"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/jennytrout.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13868\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":13869,"href":"https:\/\/jennytrout.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13868\/revisions\/13869"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/jennytrout.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=13868"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jennytrout.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=13868"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jennytrout.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=13868"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}