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Hey everybody out there in Trout Nation! With the 50 Shades of Grey movie barreling down on us like an out-of-control ostrich armed with dynamite and a thirst for vengeance, we need to make a plan. A big, awesome plan.
We’ve talked before about donating the price of a movie ticket to an anti-domestic violence organization instead of paying to see 50 Shades of Grey. Or, donating it in penance for the ticket you’re going to buy. It’s time to put our money where our mouths are. We need to make a list of places that provide resources (food, shelter, counseling, etc.) for victims of domestic violence and/or rape, by state/province/country whatever. That way, people can give locally! Suggestions for national charities is good, also!
Some of these links will take you straight to organizations you can donate to. Others will take you to coalition sites where you can find a local organization.
You can email me your links at jenny@jennytrout.com (please don’t tweet or facebook message them, there’s too big a chance they’ll get overlooked) and I’ll keep listing them until February 28th.
Hit the read more link to see the list, and please also check the comments for links people have added there.
WORLD WIDE:
ONLINE:
Pandora’s Aquarium resources for shelters/programs world-wide
AUSTRALIA:
NATIONAL
Rape and Domestic Violence Services Australia
CANADA:
ALBERTA
Calgary Communities Against Sexual Abuse, Calgary
Sexual Assault Center of Edmonton, Edmonton
BRITISH COLUMBIA
Vancouver Rape Relief and Women’s Shelter, Vancouver
Women Against Violence Against Women, Vancouver
Victoria Sexual Assault Center, Victoria
MANITOBA
Manitoba Association of Women’s Shelters
Klinic Community Healthcare, Winnipeg
Osborne House, Winnipeg
NOVA SCOTIA
Nova Scotia Domestic Violence Resource Centre
ONTARIO
My Sister’s Place, London
Family Service Toronto, Toronto
Toronto Rape Crisis Center, Toronto
Ottawa Rape Crisis Center, Ottawa
SACHA Sexual Assault Center, Hamilton
Harmony House, Ottawa
Guelph-Wellington Women In Crisis, Guelph
QUEBEC
Centre pour les victimes d’agression sexuelle de Montréal, Montreal
SASKATCHEWAN
Sexual Assault Services of Saskatchewan, Regina
FINLAND:
NATIONAL
The Federation of Mother and Child Homes and Shelters
HUNGARY
GERMANY
Frauen Gegen Gewalt, Berlin
IRELAND:
NATIONAL
KILDARE COUNTY:
ITALY
PIEMONTE
Casa Delle Donne, Torino
UNITED KINGDOM:
NATIONAL
UNITED STATES:
NATIONAL
Verizon Wireless Hopeline Program
National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence
ARIZONA
TMM Family Services, Tucson
Wingspan, Tucson (LGBTQ)
Casa De Los Niños, Tucson
Emerge, Tucson
Southern Arizona Against Sexual Assault
ARKANSAS
Arkansas Coalition Against Domestic Violence, Little Rock
CALIFORNIA
California Partnership to End Domestic Violence, links to many local services
California Coalition Against Sexual Assault, Sacramento
Women’s Recovery Association, Burlingame
Shelter From The Storm, Palm Desert
Marjorie Mason Center, Fresno
CONNECTICUT
Domestic Violence Crisis Center, Stamford
GEORGIA
Ahimsa House, Atlanta (this organization protects the pets of people leaving abusive situations)
HAWAII
Domestic Violence Action Center, Honolulu
ILLINOIS
Rape Victim Advocacy, Chicago
INDIANA
Safe Passage, Inc, Batesville
The Center for Women and Families, Louisville (also serving southern Indiana)
IOWA
Iowa Coalition Against Sexual Assault
Polk County Crisis and Advocacy Services, Des Moines
Children and Families of Iowa, Des Moines
Domestic Violence Intervention Program, Iowa City
RVAP, Iowa City
ACCESS, Ames
Safe Path Survivor Resources, Davenport
Waypoint, Cedar Rapids
Crisis Intervention Service, Mason City
Family Crisis Center, Sioux City
KANSAS
Metropolitan Organization to Counter Sexual Assault, Kansas City (operates in Kansas and Missouri)
Wichita Area Sexual Assault Center, Wichita
KENTUCKY
The Center for Women and Families, Louisville (also serving southern Indiana)
MAINE
Maine Coalition to End Domestic Violence, Augusta
MARYLAND
Center For Abused Persons, Waldorf
House of Ruth, Baltimore
MASSACHUSETTS
Respond, Somerville
Finex House, Jamaica Plain
Boston Area Rape Crisis Center, Cambridge
The Netword/La Red, Boston (LBGTQA+, poly, kink relationships)
Dove, Inc., Quincy
GLBTQ Domestic Violence Project, Cambridge (GLBTQ)
Jane Doe, Inc. Boston
MICHIGAN
Dwelling Place of Grand Rapids “Liz’s House”, Grand Rapids
Oasis Family Resource Center, Cadillac
Eve, Inc. Lansing
Angel House, Dearborn
Michigan State University Safe Place, Lansing (shelter for student victims)
MINNESOTA
Minnesota Coalition for Battered Women
Battered Women’s Legal Advocacy Project
MISSOURI
Metropolitan Organization to Counter Sexual Assault, Kansas City (operates in Kansas and Missouri)
NEW JERSEY
Women Rising, Jersey City
Center for Hope and Saftey, Hackensack
NEW YORK
Vera House, Syracuse
Sanctuary for Families, New York
Violence Intervention Program, New York (bilingual English/Spanish)
New York City Alliance Against Sexual Assault, New York
My Sister’s Place, White Plains
NORTH CAROLINA
Safe Alliance, Charlotte
Interact, Raleigh
Orange County Rape Crisis Center, Chapel Hill
Compass Center For Women And Families, Chapel Hill
Our Voice, Asheville
Helpmate, Asheville
OHIO
Choices for Victims of Domestic Violence, Columbus
OKLAHOMA
Domestic Violence Intervention Services, Tulsa
PENNSYLVANIA
Women Against Abuse, Philadelphia
Berks Women In Crisis, Reading
Women’s Shelter of Greater Pittsburgh, Pittsburgh
Pittsburgh Action Against Rape, Pittsburgh
Pennsylvania Coalition Against Rape, Enola
Pennyslvania Coalition Against Domestic Violence, Harrisburg
Survivors Inc., Gettysburg
SOUTH CAROLINA
Safe Harbor, Greenville
TEXAS
Safe Place, Austin
Women’s Shelter of South Texas, Corpus Christi
San Antonia Rape Crisis Center, San Antonio
Dallas Area Rape Crisis Center, Dallas
The Family Place, Dallas
Genesis Women’s Shelter and Support, Dallas
Denton County Friends of The Family, Denton
VERMONT
Circle, Barre
Women Helping Battered Women, Burlington
Vermont Network Against Domestic and Sexual Violence , Montpelier (statewide)
Pride Center of Vermont Safe Space, Burlington (LGBTQ)
VIRGINIA
Samaritan House, Virginia Beach
WASHINGTON
ReWA, Seattle (services for migrant, immigrant and refugee women)
I’m not sure if any other Danes will participate in this but just in case, our national organization (LOKK) can be found at lokk.dk. This is such a great initiative. Thanks, Trout Nation!
Thanks, I’ll definitely tip in 🙂
I wrote you novels for each link that I sent, but I’m just so grateful you are doing this and so proud of the resources in our community.
For any other Kiwis who visit here:
Rape Crisis has information about local groups all over the country:
http://www.rpe.co.nz
Women’s Refuge:
http://www.womensrefuge.org.nz
I will be making a donation instead of going to see this abomination of a film, and encouraging everyone else I know to do the same. I hope it crashes and burns, but I expect it won’t.
Sometimes I just want to stop this planet and get off…
http://www.verahouse.org
Syracuse/Central New York
I came here to post these guys—they sheltered me once as a child and helped me again as an adult, so even though I don’t live in Syracuse any longer they’ll probably get my donation.
Not sure how many of us Trout Nation citizens are also Finnish, but I sent some links anyway. This is such a great way to turn this atrocity into something good.
Thanks, I didn’t know where to donate to, so that was very appreciated! 🙂
I’m donating to Women’s Aid Ireland,will try to send a link when I’m not on my phone.
http://www.safepassageinc.org/
Safe Passage Inc. is a very local shelter in Southeastern Indiana, and I volunteered there several times a week before I found a job. It’s a wonderful facility, and it services an extremely rural region, which are notorious for hidden DV statistics.
Here’s one for Massachusetts, for the South Shore (all the towns just south of Boston) – based in Quincy, MA but serves a larger area.
http://dovema.org/
Here are the local women’s shelters/agencies/organizations in Las Vegas, NV I plan to donate to:
The Shade Tree of Las Vegas
http://www.theshadetree.org
Safe Nest
http://www.safenest.org
A Second Chance for W.I.N.G.S.
http://www.asecondchancethriftstore.com
Here are some for Pennsylvania:
http://laurel-house.org (Philadelphia-area)
http://awomansplace.org (Bucks County)
http://www.pcadv.org (state-wide)
[…] to be just as bad, if not worse. Put your movie ticket money to better use. Personally, I like this idea, courtesy of Jenny Trout: donate the money that you would have spent on a ticket to see 50 Shades […]
Can we donate to collectively “sponsor” you to go see the movie and review it for us? Or are you 100% against seeing it?
I emailed this link but figured it can’t hurt to also post here.
Pennsylvania – Berks County (City of Reading)
http://berkswomenincrisis.org/
Here is one for Utah:
Utah Domestic Violence Coalition
http://udvc.org/utah-dv-coalition-partners/domestic-violence-shelters
This is a great idea. I’m in.
Hi Jenny,
The Benevolent Society in Australia http://www.benevolent.org.au/ does a lot of work with women and children experiencing or who have experienced Domestic Violence.
There is also the Domestic Violence line whose number is 1800 65 64 63.
and website is http://www.domesticviolence.nsw.gov.au/
Also most police stations have a domestic violence liason officer.
Also thankyou.
The Pixel Project is a global virtual NGO that advocates to stop violence against women. They do a lot of (online) campaigning in the US and parts of Asia to spread the word and to get men involved in putting a stop to violence against women.
Here’s their website: http://www.thepixelproject.net/
Their on-going campaign is to raise US$1 million by getting a global audience to collectively unveil a million-pixel mystery collage of Celebrity Male Role Models at US$1 per pixel in benefit of a range of anti-VAW nonprofits around the world.
Full disclosure: I volunteer with them. But I think they’re doing a great job spreading awareness and educating women, men and children about the issues surrounding VAW.
http://www.brokenrainbow.org.uk/home is an LGBT DV charity based in the UK. I know they are struggling a lot for funding recently what with cuts
Have you seen this https://www.facebook.com/50dollarsnotfiftyshades
And this? http://antiporn-activist.tumblr.com/post/109840773096/images-from-the-50dollarsnot50shades-campaign-on
PS: Great campaign 🙂
Hey Rhea, the 50 Dollars not 50 Shades campaign is run by an organization headed by Gail Dines, who has done a lot of stuff that supports trans eliminationist radical feminism, and is very anti-sex work. It’s not super obvious from the 50 Dollars not 50 Shades blurbs, but while donating instead of seeing the movie is a great idea, this is maybe not a campaign that a lot of people are going to want to support.
If you’re in France, you can give to http://www.solidaritefemmes.org/index.php the national association to help women victim of violences.
Not sure how many German readers you have (I’m a Brit living near Frankfurt) but here is a link to Frauen Gegen Gewalt (Women against violence) which seems to be an umbrella organization. I’ve linked to the German language page because there only seems to be a link for donations on the German page. http://www.frauen-gegen-gewalt.de/aktuelles.html
Was going to post for Alberta, but I see they’re already there!
For Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence:
http://wscadv2.org
Haven House (Buffalo, New York) http://www.cfsbny.org/programs/haven-house/
Erie County Coalition Against Family Violience (Erie County) http://www.eccafv.org/
Crisis Services (Western New York) http://crisisservices.org/content/ (also a mental health crisis service)
The Alabama Collalition Against Domestic Violence has links to DV shelters around the state.
http://www.acadv.org/shelterlist.html
My email must have gotten lost so I’ll post the link here in the comments. Here’s one for Poughkeepsie NY, our local library did a nice donation box of diapers, formula, toiletries etc for them. They’re supposed to be a pretty good group.
http://www.gracesmithhouse.org/
I cannot believe how lame you people are! A terrorist group named ISIS is burning people alive in cages and displaying the video online and you are complaining about ladies wanting to have “girls movie night” to watch this soft porn movie with beautiful people acting in it. Get real.
I think you’re confused as to the intentions of this post. See, people wanted to put together links for domestic violence and rape charities so people could donate to them… are you unable to enjoy your beautiful people movie while resources remain available for victims of intimate partner abuse and rape? Unless you’re not going to see the film because you’re too busy caring about ISIS, that is?
I think you may have mistaken us for people unable to think about, and have empathy for, more than one group of people at a time.
Oh, honey. I think you’re suffering from a major case of Pearl Clutcher’s Syndrome. Symptoms include being able to only care about one serious thing at a time and strange outbursts. You need to get that checked out.
The Cridge Transition House for Women, Victoria, BC http://cridge.org/cthw/
Domestic Violence BC http://www.domesticviolencebc.ca/
BC Society of Transition Houses (Has links to transition houses throughout BC) http://www.bcsth.ca/
Thank you for including the Italian link I sent! I don’t know how many Italian readers you have, but still 🙂
As someone else suggested, can this be also a way to “sponsor” you to go see the movie and then recap it here (taking one for the team, as usual)? I’d love to read that!
Also I have another idea/request: could you leave this post visible, maybe not as a sticky post, but as one of the links right under the title? So that if (should it ever be necessary and of course we hope it never should be) someone who reads your blog or is aware of this post ever needs this kind of resources can find it easily again. After all, it’s a great list of organizations, it shouldn’t go buried after this little campaign is over.
Thank you for all of your work, and take care <3
Absolutely keep donating to these sadly still needed organizations, but I wanted to let you know there is an movie releasing against 50 shades with a completely opposite message! It’s called “Old Fashioned” and they chose to release head to head to bring the message that we can choose to respect each other and ourselves and that it’s OK too. Never ever ever does anyone deserve to be violated and I’m so glad there are places to turn to for help when that happens. So again, keep donating, but if you can do it donate and send the message to the industry that people want to see a better option for relationships and go see “Old Fashioned”!
In keeping with the intent of your request here is a link to a place for help in Maryland:
http://www.heartlyhouse.org/
http://www.flickfilosopher.com/2015/02/old-fashioned-movie-review-jesus-date.html
I just emailed a bunch of links. Thank you for doing this.
Hey Jenny. Help against domestic violence for women and men in Hamburg, Germany can be found here: http://www.gewaltkommtnichtindietuete-hamburg.de/beratungsstellen.html – Gewalt kommt nicht in die Tüte
I was looking through Women’s Recovery’s website (listed in your main list, Jenny, under California), and I couldn’t find any information about domestic violence or similar services. It seems like straight-up substance abuse treatment, albeit for women only. Not that there’s anything wrong with that at all, but I thought you were focusing on specific things that we feel 50 Shades glorifies, rather than places that do good services for women? Can whoever submitted the link maybe comment about why they thought it belonged on this list? I live nearby so I was potentially interested in donating.
Link for Reno and Northern Nevada
http://www.safeembrace.org/get-involved.html
And one from my hometown of Logan, UT.
http://www.capsa.org/en/
Both are great organizations. Thank you for this.
So, another author, Rachael Acks, has offered to write a humorous/scathing review of the movie, if people donate a combined total of at least $750 to any of the charities she lists in her post. I think this could be a lot of fun, and of course, support some good causes. http://katsudon.net/?p=3924
For Washington, D.C.:
DC Coalition Against Domestiv Violence
http://www.dccadv.org
The Women’s Center
http://www.thewomenscenter.org
Thank you for doing this.
Massachusetts
Victim Rights Law Center
Florida Coalition Against Domestic Violence
http://www.fcadv.org/
Women’s Resource Center to End Domestic Violence (atlanta, GA) http://www.wrcdv.org/#!home/mainPage
Partnership against domestic violence (decatur, GA)
http://padv.org/
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Jenny,
Thank you so much for doing this.
–C
Georgia Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Vancouver, BC: Battered Women’s Support Services. http://www.bwss.org/
They helped my mom out a lot when she was trying to escape my father.
definitely please put the Artemis Center in Dayton under Ohio!
http://www.artemiscenter.org/
I live in Denton County and did my undergrad in public relations at UNT. While there, we did a PR project for a local charity, and I chose the Denton County Friends of the Family. They provide such a valuable service, especially in a two college town like Denton and I am super happy to see them linked above. Thank you for compiling this list!
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Please add the New Beginnings Shelter in Seattle WA
Just donated! Thanks for giving me a way to feel like I’m combatting this ridiculous cultural juggernaut.
So… I did it! I watched it. I donated double the ticket price to a womans shelter. I guess I will donate again because I feel … dirty.
I need to vent. I need to rant. I will try to keep it short. I know this might not be the right place but FUCKING HELL… I need to get it out. English is not my first language, so please bare with me.
From this point on: Spoilers.
I mainly saw the movie because I was curious. I wanted to know whether they would keep up the creep factor.
To start I will name the three good things I saw in this movie:
1. They make it very clear that Ana and that Fucking Guy practice safe sex.
2. I saw Jamie Dornans happy trail.
3. Taylor still rocks. He is in this movie for like three minutes and he is the best part.
Now.
Of course the movie differs as far as us not being in Anas head. We are supposed to see the movie as a third, all knowing, party. This would have been a great opportunity to give Ana a hind of a personality. They fail. In fact, Ana is even worse because we only see the Ana, that Ana voices. And that Ana is fucking bland. Good for her though that she lives with faboulus Kate. Kate is still pretty great even though the movie pretends she isn’t.
While the story remains mostly the same, they try to make Christian more human by giving him Jamie Dornans face with can look super heartbroken. Also they leave out certain parts, sentences, that made Christian in-your-face creepy. Still alot remains the same. Anas virginity is still a “situation” that needs to be taken care of. Consent is still a very “fuzzy” thing, that they do mention again and again, but do not linger on. But I knew that. i expected that. The movie already felt like a never-ending Meat Loaf Medley. I did not need more of the stupid, overwrought, needless conversations that only show how miniscule Anas knowledge regarding sex is and how much Christian uses that to manipulate her.
But now what pissed me of. They tried to make us into Ana. Alas, they same kind of verbal manipuliation that Christian uses on Ana, is used on us as an audience. By pretending to give us an insight into Christians twisted psyche that just needs some magic hoohaa to save him, they try to make us believe that “we” …”me” as a person can achieve that. More than once Christian almost breaks the fourth wall to make us believe that he is not talking to Ana (most of the movie in dire need of a brush) but to YOU. The first time that happend I thought that I imagined it. But the further the movie went, the clearer it became and made me seething in my seat.
I won’t go into detail because I don’t want to bore anyone. I don’t want to go into lenght how Novel Ana and Christian and Film Ana and Christian are different. I just wanted to get rid of this dirty feeling. I can’t and I won’t stop anyone from watching that movie. I just fear that the hype that is “Fifty Shades of this-is-not-okay” will go alot deeper now. Because the film is more subtle. And maybe even more disgusting.
Sorry. I feel better now. I hope Christian Grey get hit by a snowplow.
Snowplow, please, but not Jamie Dornan. Because, if I was going to see this movie for any reason it would be for him. Although, I don’t think I will be seeing any part of this movie voluntarily. Ever.
But! There is a new season of The Fall on Netflix!
[…] Try donating to a good cause instead. […]
Excellent idea!
Like many others here, I will watch the movie cause I’m curious, but I just donated to Germany’s shelter organisation. I was amazed at finding it listed.
[…] Citizens of Trout Nation! We need your domestic violence and rape support donation links! […]
Refuge House http://refugehouse.com/
A Florida shelter in the Big Bend area, serving 8 counties in North Florida.
Not sure how many of my Bahamian folks will pop past here, but if they do I have links.
(1) The National Crisis Centre : http://www.bahamascrisiscentre.org/
and another org that works closely with the Crisis centre and helps DV victims too.
: http://lignumvitaebahamas.org/index.php
I just donated to the Choices shelter in Columbus. In fact, I subscribed and will be donating $10 a month for…well, for as long as it takes. I’ll start with four years of donations, one for every month that my mom stayed with my abusive dad. I’ll tack on one donation for every month that this piece of shit movie is in the theaters. Then I’ll just keep going from there.
Catholic Charities USA
http://catholiccharitiesusa.org/donationinfo/
http://www.ccomaha.org/services/domestic-violence-services
Catholic Charities Omaha
Catholic Charities Trenton
http://www.catholiccharitiestrenton.org/cc3/index.php?page=domestic-violence-services
Catholic Charities Archdiocese of Chicago
http://www.catholiccharities.net/GetHelp/OurServices/DomesticViolence.aspx
Catholic Charities Jackson Mississippi
http://www.catholiccharitiesjackson.org/services/domestic.violence.html
Catholic Charities Wichita Kansas
http://catholicdioceseofwichita.org/family-stabilization/harbor-house
Catholic Charities Youngstown Ohio
http://ccdoy.org/locations/catholic-charities-regional-agency/dvss/
This isn’t a comprehensive list like it says, but here are shelters you can donate to in Illinois: http://www.nationalcenterdvtraumamh.org/resources/chicago-and-illinois-domestic-violence-agencies-and-organizations/
I wanted to say thank you for this, Jenny. I saw the movie with friends that I don’t get to see often, and felt guilty afterwards, so donating twice the cost of my ticket was the best penance I’ve ever done.
Here’s a HUGE directory of shelters in Virginia (opens as a .pdf in a new window): http://storage.cloversites.com/virginiasexualdomesticviolenceactionallianc/documents/Action%20Alliance%20Directory_02.09.15.pdf.
A lot of YWCA centers (in the U.S. , at least) provide resources for domestic/sexual violence survivors in their area, so it’s worth a shot to look up your local center, if you’re still looking for somewhere to donate your “movie ticket” money.
EDIT: Just tested the link and it opened on the same page. Forget the “opens in new window” bit.
I saw you have no links for Colorado up there, here’s a few.
http://www.advocatesafehouse.org/ – The Advocate Safehouse is only in the Roaring Fork Valley (Aspen area), but they’re a great organization.
http://ccadv.org/ – Colorado Coalition Against Domestic Violence
http://www.safehouse-denver.org/ – Safehouse Denver. Counselling and advocacy for domestic violence victims and children in Denver.
It’s not a whole lot, but I didn’t want to see my home state up there with nothing.
San Antonio, Texas:
Family Violence Prevention Services
http://www.fvps.org/get-help/our-services/
(main site address is http://www.fvps.org)
(210) 733-8810
I got counseling through them years ago. Be aware if you need to physically visit them they ONLY have the street number visible (nothing about what 7911 Broadway actually is).
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https://www.safv.org
For anyone needing help in the Sitka, AK area. They literally saved my life.
Oh, and for NE Ohio: http://www.clevelandrapecrisis.org